When I looked to social science for an answer, the conclusion seemed to be that men weren’t romantically intimidated by success so much as, well, indifferent to it. ) “Too good for him” isn’t actually a problem — until population-wide trends come into play.
If powerful women only want to date men they consider equally powerful, but men don’t consider status when choosing mates, then the powerful women will eventually run across a deficit of powerful men.
In both cases, this may be due to the allure of the possibilities that come with mixing ages, interests and backgrounds.
Many women who have reached an above-average level of success in their careers grew up in a time when there weren’t that many women in positions of great leadership or authority.
“She wasn’t that hot, physically,” one man recalled of a higher-ranking woman he once worked with, “but something about the way she talked and acted, and how confident she was, just made her hot.” One day, he and another man were discussing how sexy this woman was, just as she walked up from behind them and brushed by.
She gave no sign of whether she’d overheard them — but the notion that she might have known how hot they thought she was and ignored them anyway only made her seem hotter.
GQ once said the “” was the same one who wrote “Bow Down [Bitches].” Female power is hot.When I started asking the men I knew, I found no shortage who professed to be actively attracted to female power.Multiple men told me about powerful women they’re sexually obsessed with.For many men, a woman in a position of power is a normal, familiar circumstance can help younger men be eager, open, willing and appreciative of the wisdom, the guidance and decisive nature that mature, successful women can offer.When you’re a successful woman who gravitates toward younger men, it may be because you find in them, a non-defensive willingness to absorb what you can provide.At my most skeptical, I’ve wondered whether “he’s intimidated by you” is the female equivalent of “you’re in her friendzone,” a ego-coddling excuse for romantic failure that deflects blame from the brokenhearted.